For 30’s employee who wants to make it clear whether something is right or wrong. This is exercising for break the rules.

When you are dealing the business with strong will, you may find the situation that you feel it is hard to make decision. Sometimes you may upset and you want to do something with the situation that you had to work alone. In some cases there is some addition that someone would criticize your radical action and remarks. Or maybe they blame you and lough loudly about your decision. Then, you will think “Are you my enemy or friend?”

"Fair and neutral unfair"

Your boss or colleague’s “Fair, neutral, and proper advice” sound evasive answer in some cases. You explain your situation to them and you ask for their common-sensible opinion. Then you try to understand their advice but you can’t. “Their story is this. Your story is that. I can’t judge until hearing of their opinion”

What a noncommittal answer!

You are not in court and what you want is someone’s conclusion which supports your idea.

You have a lot of thing to do and time is limited. You shouldn't ask person who aren't sure friend or foe and doesn't have own answers to waste your time.

This is the way to find out who is the right person to ask for some advice. 4 advises to solve the problem immediately

Let’s solve your problem immediately. People who close to you are never be fair or neutral position when you ask for some advice to them. You and these people already know each other that both of you have the answer clearly.

1.”Then what are you going to do?” They know that you have answers already.

2.”Just leave it” This is advice that you are wasting your time

3.”That bastard” This is the answer they trust you.

4.”If I were you…” It is individual answer that clear and specific.

You already have your conclusion. But you need someone’s advice for your next act. It is subjective and clear answer which seems not answer. Let’s move forward after you got some immediate advice.

Great Effect 1

The business will be done so quickly. You can switch your mind immediately and you can go next step.

Great Effect 2

100 ambiguous advices are inferior to specific one advice.

Counselling service had done. It took only 30 sec.

Consultation was done. The conclusion of my senior was “Just leave it”. That’s it.

In past, I had been mad about my manager’s harassment. So I had asked for some advice to my senior that how I apply to office for personnel change or how I punch my manager 10times to feel fine. The senior was reckless driver when he was young. He was always very kind and very helpful. The middle of my explanation, he interrupted and remarked “Don’t fight against the weak. You should fight against the person who stronger than you” When you can’t endure something, of course it is forbidden to beat someone, you should ask the person who has strong personality.

When you have to leave your position because of absurd reason by weak person’s arrogance, you should ask a person who doesn’t care other’s attention or rules. In the clutch, the people you can put reliance aren’t 10 thousand others who give you fare and neutral advice but few absolute friends who understand you. You should hold them in high esteem.

Let’s think clear.

Japanese（日本語）